understanding your thoughts
We're all a little bit too committed to our thoughts as being grounded in fact, despite the actual fact, that they are in fact, not. We have so many thoughts a day, it would be impossible to assume that every single one that enters our little mind bank is based in any truth & worthy of living there. Depending on lots of different variables including our childhood experiences, schooling, cultural beliefs, religious beliefs, so on & so forth, we can develop habituations of thinking patterns, & a lot of them are pretty terrible. I've, with the wonderful (& honestly entirely all their) help of Carol Vivyan, identified 12 that are particularly troublesome. I refer to these as your red flags. Why? Because when you see them, it's absolutely time to stop, & turn back.
Compare & Despair
Shoulds & Musts
When we only notice what the filter wants or allows us to notice, & we dismiss anything that doesn't "fit". Like looking through dark blinkers or "gloomy specs" or only catching the negative stuff in our "kitchen strainers" whilst anything more positive or realistic is dismissed.
Assuming we know what others are thinking (usually about us). "They hate me", "They think I'm weird".
Believing we know what's going to happen in the future.